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Not a fit request, a consultation maybe?
So is it possible to do a personal consultation, not exactly a bra-specific fit request? I have been working this thang for just over a year and have amassed many bras that (maybe?) fit technically or personal-comfort wise, but despite that data and poring over shapes and pictures and reading the collective genius wealth of information here and on the blogs, I am still in the dark about my roots and fullness. In fact, pretty much all I am sure about is that I have immediate projection and my nips point straight down when I lean over. Every other category, blank. I read everything and try to understand it, I do. Hours in front of the mirror doing hand-bra and squinting for invisible root shadows. I bought all the diagnostic bras on abtf, not one of them worked. Trust me, I have looked at all the shape photos & drawings until I am cross-eyed and they all look the same to me (oddly I am completely incapable of seeing when a friend has lost weight, regularly shocked to discover only upon hugging that someone is 6" taller or shorter than me - maybe its related). For a while I was convinced: narrow and short rooted, then its tall but shallow roots, then it must be soft tissue (whatever that is because whose boobs do you manipulate to compare?) so functionally FOB, etc.etc.etc. I have been going in circles for a year and still don't get it. I feel inadequate that I can't just GET this! It seems like everyone gets it but me, there are all kinds of a-ha moments here and on reddit, people claim their shapes with assured words. I know it actually doesn't matter so long as I am comfy, but I need to know. I always need to know why things work :\ It is making me crazy. I have a Libra rising, so that does.not.help. If I knew an old-fashioned fitter within 50 miles I would go pay him/her just to alleviate the mind-torture, but the 'highly-recommended' shop here just ran a tape over my shirt then tried to sell me an overpriced bra in a matrix size. Can I do a consult here as a fit request? The guidelines don't really say anything about that... I would be brave enough to send pictures, I think. Or someone could suggest what bra(s) to wear for the pictures. I just can't do this without help. This is such an amazing community, that I can even trust enough to put this out there to y'all! <3 & thanks
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Do you have a reddit accout? I would suggest you make a post on https://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFits/ You can add pictures of you in a bra but you don't have to. Try to describe everything and you can link pictures that are similar to you. There is a lot of bra experts. Ask for shape help. They helped me a lot.
I totally understand how you feel! Haha I posted my boobs here (I think) and I believe Reddit as well (don't, it's against the rules-I am just kind of an idiot and didn't read them initially
-_-)
I got a few responses here and there, but ended up somehow eventually figuring things out myself.
But I am completely the same; always always always need to know how things work, why, what, etc. Lol
I think the best bras for others to help you with this would be unlined bras and possibly bralettes. Maybe even bralettes that are too large for you, so that no fabric is compressing/hiding your shape. Just some ideas.
Also fit checks. If you buy what would normally be a wide and shallow bra and you're quadding or wires are under your arms or not close/at your IMF, then you are not wide and shallow, but you could be in the middle somewhere if projected + narrow styles don't work either.
But you say you know you are projected, so, I guess that leaves width.
For width, it seems glaringly obvious to me now, what I need, but I was so confused for a long time.
What I did was remove the wires from an old, cheap bra (if you don't have one, Wal Mart usually has some for like $3-10 if you can find a sister size), hold my boobs up to where they'd be in a bra (separately of course), use eyeliner to draw around the shape, and manipulate the wires to fit around them, then measure my perfect width. And I found my first *perfect* bra after that.
As for tall or short roots, I think your best bet would be to post fit checks with unpadded bras, maybe even some padded and ask.
You seem to have figured out FoT/FoB (that took me forever because my boobs have a somewhat uncommon shape and nothing seemed to apply to me-and still doesn't as far as finding what bras work), and it seems like you'd be even.
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