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Bra Snark
It seems like the more I read bra adventures or fitting help requests the more snarkiness I see. We all have different shapes, sizes, fit needs, etc. We all have different fit standards that we use (+0 inches, +0cm, +2in). I get that, and I think that is what makes this community great. There is not much out there for fitting help when you cannot get into a boutique. And that makes every suggestion on the fitting help requests or bra adventures valuable.
But I don't get the snark. Why do we need to nit pick other's suggestions if we do not agree? Say you don't agree, and give your thoughts to why. It is more respectful to the person making the suggestion and to the person requesting help. The person requesting help could use as many opinions as possible! I have stopped offering any kind of fitting help just because I want to avoid the snark. I don't have a perfect fit myself, and I flat out know I won't because the breast shape I have. It's not me, it's the bras. I don't feel that any fitting suggestion I offer would be well received because I myself don't have an ideal fit. But what I do have is the best fit I can and comfort. Every woman that wears a bra deserves the same thing, even if they can't get a perfect fit. I think we need to remember that when we are trying to help others.
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<3 Yes. And I just realised for me it has a lot to do with cultural preferences as well. That one actually baffled me when I understood it.
Thank you for bringing this up. I started to avoid fitting blogs last year because I felt like many of the discussions there were taking a turn towards "you're wrong about fitting, you're wearing the wrong size, you shouldn't calculate your size that way, let me tell you how to do it properly"... not to mention people accusing each other of wearing small bands/large cups out of vanity. (I do think it's appropriate to discuss "reverse letterphobia" because that's a legitimate fit issue that some people run into, but I am not okay with telling someone "oh, you're only wearing that size because you want to think of yourself as thinner", etc.)
IMHO, if we're going to use our collective knowledge to help each other, respecting others' experiences of their own bodies is pretty important.
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