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Attention = bad??
Granted, I'm in a relationship but for some reason I've never been bothered by male attention. I love attention from my boyfriend and no matter how much he "paws" me I still love it. When I was single I loved attention from other men (unless they were married or 60 years old, lol). Even if it was sleazy, it was a compliment. Nowadays, I still get male attention from single men and I always turn them down (given that I don't cheat on my bf) but I still take the attention as a compliment.
However I notice that seemingly the vast majority of women with larger breasts (and mine aren't THAT big, only big compared to my weight/size but I admit the shape is nice) don't like male attention. I feel really abnormal for actually enjoying showing my body off and getting compliments. Is there something wrong with me? I feel like a normal woman in my situation would bemoan "not getting taken seriously" and wish for smaller breasts or something. I feel like the only person with this mindset!
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No, you are not abnormal. I'm a bit of an attention hoe myself. I love to have my self-esteem boosted by men other than my boyfriend :)
boobsincognito I think that a lot of women find the attention degrading because they feel like the only reason they are getting the attention is because of their bodies. I understand why they might feel like that even though I don't feel like that myself.
Personally I've always believed that no one has the right to make another person uncomfortable by their behaviour, and if a person is making you uncomfortable you have every right to tell them to stop and use every bit of the law if necessary to stop them. But I also recognise that as the majority of men are attracted to women, this means that a lot of men do like blonde hair and big boobs (in the part of the world where I'm from anyway). This means that as a young woman with a) big boobs and b) long blonde hair, some men will look. This doesn't make then rapists or stalkers, just heterosexual males. I'm not okay with unsolicited touching (tho I've not had that since high school as I've learnt how to avoid it) or calling after me down the street, as that makes me uncomfortable. Neither am I ok with long stares that are obviously lecherous in nature. But a quick look and a smile- not a problem. I know that my fiancé loves me for me, not just my body, and that my boss hired me for my abilities, and that is what is important, not random guys in the street.
However I understand as well that this is my opinion, based on my background and experience, and that other women have completely different views on the matter because of what they have gone through, or seen others go through, and I would never sit in judgement on them.
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