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The first shopping trip for the first bra ever - thoughts from my side
I've been seeing a guy who is raising two daughters after his wife/their mom passed due to breast cancer. He asked me fairly recently if I would take his older daughter to shop for bras, since she had said that she'd be more comfortable doing that with me. Even though she's not all that developed, I 'get' why she wants a bra, because it's the same reason I wanted one around the same age - to fit in. Of course, the selection that she has available to her at Target is way beyond the white, black, S-M-L choices I recall, and whatever the material used in them always made me itchy. I was happy to have been able to make the whole process a positive experience for his daughter, who now has options in basic colors as well as a hot pink lace-trimmed and padded bra. The younger one thinks bras are silly and plans on never wearing them. I was worried that I might be asked questions to which there aren't any easy answers (My mom had breast cancer, will I get it? etc etc) but the most challenging inquiry was "do I have this on the right way?" (the answer: umm...almost....). I got her a lingerie wash bag for everything *but* the hot pink one, at least not for the first couple of washes so that there's less worry about any dye transferring, and instructions to hang dry (even though it's more likely that all of the bras will go into the dryer because that's easier and faster...).
The entire experience brought back memories of my first trip that my mom and I took shopping for bras. I was a little embarrassed but I managed to bring the subject up with my mom, who responded to the whole thing only marginally better than how she reacted to the permission slip from school to allow me to go with the other girls in my class to learn about all the ways our bodies were about to change and freak us out with. Evidently she'd assumed that sort of thing wouldn't come up for another couple of years. I have to say, I'd have never been able to bring the subject of wanting/needing a bra up with my dad, regardless of who would be taking me to the store.
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It's awesome to hear that her first experience with bras was such a good one! We should all be so lucky to have someone like you early in our bra-wearing lives.
I wish someone like you had taken me bra shopping when I was young. It was a big shameful awful ordeal.
(don't tween bras come so cute now? way better than the pink or white superthick nonsense)
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