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Sep 11, 2014
Girl friends. Aren't they so fantastic? Hanging out together, sipping wine, chatting. Lovely. Like a good bra, they are supportive and wonderful. Except when their underwire sticks out.
I'm new to my search for a properly fitting bra. I've only tried one in my size range so far, but I'm making another purchase this weekend and I'm PSYCHED. And I've started looking for a properly fitting swim suit top as summer is fast approaching in Australia. I came across the Fantasie Versailles Twist Front Tankini and it's pretty much exactly what I'm looking for... Except that the cheapest I can find it here in Australia is $130.
So I was having a good cathartic whine to my friend, who asked to see what I was looking at, so I sent her a link, and told her the colour and that I was looking at a 34-36G/GG.
As a bit of background, I've told her about Bratabase and /r/abrathatfits and shown her what I've learned, but she's perfectly happy in what she currently wears, so I've decided to just let it be.
But when I told her the size range, she just said "I really don't think you're a 34G. We're pretty much the same with our upper bodies, and I wear a 38-40 so I don't get back fat. And if you went up numbers, you could come down cup sizes."
Well. Kudos to her for understanding that cup sizes are not static. But how frustrating! Especially because I tried to explain that I've had 38's and whereas no, they don't give me back fat, they also don't stay in place, and that's not supporting me properly, but the argument just kind of escalated. Over the fact that I'm trying to find a bra that fits and supports me properly.
The argument more or less finished with her saying, "You're not a G cup, lol. You just haven't found the right bra."
AHHHH!!!! I've already given up on the idea of "bravangelising" her, but this turned into a legitimate argument over how I can't possibly be the size my measurements say I am. How ridiculous!
Does anyone else get this? People just arguing with you despite demonstrable evidence that you're right? How do you deal with it?
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I am super lucky, because my best friend not only believes me, she has experienced a better fit due to me! I gave her some of my older bras, and while they're still about a band size big for her, they fit her so much better that she can't stop gushing about how much she loves them. In fact, next week we're going to the mall so she can try on some, take notes, and then she can shop online for them. (She's going to join on here, as well, soon. She's a busy mama of an almost 2 year old little boy, so the bra outing is a big event for us. Lol. Luckily for her, her size is around 30-32DD/DDD, which Macy's here does carry a few of in the store! )
However, I have had is happen a LOT with coworkers, to the point where I have to sometimes just walk away. I'm also too scared to mention it to my husband's mama, because I know she wears a 34-36B and she's a very slim lady, so I can't imagine her ribcage being much bigger than 30, but she's also the one who, back when I thought I was a 32DDD (I'm closer to a 26HH/J or 28H/HH) scoffed and, although she bought me two bras in that size, kept insisting we could return them if the band was too tight or the cups too big. (It was the opposite.) I completely understand-it's really frustrating when people won't at least acknowledge that maybe you have a reason for getting the size you do-it obviously is working at least somewhat well for you, so why should they care if your cup size is bigger or band size is smaller than they eyeball you at? Eyeball measuring isn't 100% accurate, and with other women, they may, whether or not they love you or not, there may be some insecurity of their own presenting itself, unfortunately.
I told a friend's mama my ribcage and bust measurement the other night, and granted, she was intoxicated, but it was a bit unsettling when she kept saying something about how I could write a letter to US companies asking for more models in 38G, when I had told her a few moments earlier that I usually had to wear 28H/HHs due to a lack of 26 bands. My bust measures 39, a 38 band would be ridiculously big for me, so I certainly wouldn't be pestering a company for a size I can't wear! (Not that it's a big size, just that it would be a full 11-11.5 inches bigger than my ribcage at minimum.)
Sorry for the long response, it's just a topic I can really go on and on about! =^__^'=
@eternalheartcreations Haha, didn't take that as an insult at all. That's both disturbing and hilarious. Definitely wouldn't want a back size that's the same as the circumference around your breasts.
And I can't even imagine discussing bra sizes with my mother in law EVER, let alone now that I've discovered my right size range. But she's sorta nuts, so that may be a different story entirely. LOL
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