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• The way your back looks is actually not informative about the fit of the cup. (Incidentally we would need a side photo with your arm out of the way to see if the cup is the right width for you.)

  The leading causes of bra bands digging into your back flesh are:

  - Band sitting at the right height but being too tight for you
  - Band riding too high on your back (where your back is fleshier, as it should be) because it is too loose for you
  - Very short torso and/or high-set breasts means that virtually all bra bands hit you at a fleshier spot than most women

• Noooooo- this basically confirms all my worst fears. :-( Short torso equals back fat forever ughhh. I want to size up in terms band to eliminate it but I feel like that might cause more problems.

• Not necessarily Kjralon ! I have a very, very short torso and don't have much of a problem with indents and bulges. Too large bands usually make even bigger bulges. If you have both a short torso and high set breasts and think your bra band is digging in even though it is the right size, consider looking for bras with thinner bands that won't go up as high on your back, bustiers and longlines which sit low on the back, or else invest in higher quality bras that use the more expensive materials on their bands that do not dig in the way the cheap mesh/elastic combos do.

  (Btw please, please don't refer to this as "back fat" as EVERY healthy adult woman has some softish flesh at the top of her back, even very skinny ladies. It is a place where we have more muscle tissue and where most of us store at least a little bit of fat. The fat or muscle is not the problem. The bra band position or size may be a problem, but your body or anyone's body or components of their body such as fat are NOT the problem.)

• That makes a lot of sense, Wendy! :) I will definitely try different styles of bands that you suggested. I'm surprised I should look for thinner bands, though, because I always felt that thinner bands dug into my back and sides even more so than thicker bands! Maybe it was just the bras I was wearing, though. I still haven't tried a higher quality, more expensive brand, yet.

  Thanks so much for explaining, and I'm sorry that I used the phrase "back fat". I'm trying to get rid of my negative view of my curves, and I should consider that my comments about my own body are also not helpful to others!

• Oh it doesn't upset me for me. It upsets me for you and anyone else who has internalized this body shaming phrase! Although you're right that when we put ourselves down, we probably aren't helping others question how harsh they are with themselves either, in fact a lot of people seem to feel like it is a prompt for them to chime in and say "ME TOO, I also have this bad freakish body feature, etc. etc."

  But back to bras... If thin bands create more of a problem, then it's likely that you do not have the short torso/high set boobs issue, so you can keep the broader band shapes. Just look for bras where the band is made of a nice, resilient material that has roughly the same resistance and elasticity as the edging on the band. An example of the type of band you do NOT want is what you can find on many Freya bras: a wimpy, lightweight mesh material makes up most of the band and they put on a robust elastic edging that is considerably more resistant than the band itself. So most of the anchoring power of the band comes from that edging, and it digs into flesh like a hot knife going through butter. You can see photos on here of women who probably weigh less than 100lbs and have scarcely 1/10th of an inch of flesh on their ribcage, but still get an indent from this type of bra band!

• I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you. Fat is not negative word for me...

  I've got really long torso, so it will be probably the problem with elasticity.

  I've add another pictures, so if you don't mind you could take a look :)

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